Showing posts with label Love & Yoga. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love & Yoga. Show all posts

Monday, 21 August 2017

Do you know this Tantra Yoga Janamashtami ritual can bring you closer to your true love?


Originally Published in Daily Bhaskar




Janamashtmi’s relevance in Tantra Yoga:

My Tantra Yoga mentor, the Aghori Naga, was a fire-worshipper. He would spend his days in Homa (offering oblations to fire) and nights in Dhuni (transformation by being consumed by fire).
While he dedicated his entire sadhana to Homa & Dhuni, he would tell me that there are four nights in a year when the practices Homa and Dhuni are particularly worthwhile.
One of these four nights is- Moha Ratri, the eighth tithi (day) of the krishna paksha (days of receding moon) in the month of Shravana. In Dwapar Yuga, Krishna was on born Moha Ratri and since then this day is celebrated as Janamastami in popular culture. (It’s not a coincidence that Krishna was a Param Yogi. He was born in the planetary alignment to be one).

Moha Ratri, the night of love in Tantra Yoga:

There’s a story in Tantra Yoga lore-
Once upon a time, there was a star. The star was in love with a blue lotus, which grew in the Mansarovar pond of Kailash Parvat. Every night, the star would touch this lotus with its celestial light. The touch of love would make the blue-lotus bloom and they would spend the night in the luminous embrace of love.
One night, the star fell sick; the gravitational forces at its core became stronger than the momentum of fire burning inside it, thus restricting the flow of its light.
When the blue lotus heard of it from the moon, it offered itself as oblation to the internal fire of the star. That night, the star finally shone, it shone like a blue lotus. That night was Moha Ratri and since that day, on every Moha Ratri the star shines like a blue lotus.
This is the reason why in tantra yoga tradition, Moha Ratri is considered as phase of love. My tantra mentor would say that on this night, through simple rituals and oblations, a human body can be converted into a receptor of celestial light, which in turns transforms our being into living embodiment of love.
Therefore, born on this night Krishna is such an irresistible lover. Whether it was milkmaids or Vrindavan or Radha or Meera or the timeless poets and artistes they have fallen inexorably in love with Krishna.
So, on Moha Ratri tantrics observe homas and dhuni to become Krishnamaya, in order to become the irresistible lover like him.
However, before we can discuss the DIY Homa and Dhuni, it is essential to understand what it means to be a lover like Krishna.

Krishna’s love:

Krishna embodies love for all- Gopis or Gopalas, Devas or Asurs. He accepts all.
When hunched-back and hated by all Kubja came to him with a wish of turning into a beautiful maiden, Krishna didn’t give a lecture on body-image issues, but he granted that wish. When he rescued 16,100 maidens from Narakasur and married them to restore their honor, he made each of them feel like chosen one, like he loved them more than anyone else. When he stole the clothes of Gopis, he robbed them of their egos, enabling them to meet Krishna in their purest form. When he loved Radha, it was beyond social bonds, time and space.
Krishna’s love incorporates all the 12 Rasas (spiritual tastes) - passion, wonder, conjugal love, fun, chivalry, kindness, servitude, friendship, horror, shock, saintly and parent like.
This is what makes Krishna the Supreme Lover and this is wish of tantrics on the night of Moha Ratri, for which they practice Homa and Dhuni
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Easy DIY Tantra Yoga ritual for Moharati:

If you want to experience love in its purest form- an immersion in spiritual, mental and physical union. Here’s a  simple ritual to follow. You don’t have to be a Yogi or a tantric follow this, it just requires pure heart. If you have a partner, you can practice with the partner or you can practice alone, either way, it potent enough to sort out your love life-

Step 1:
On Moharatri/Janamashtami sit in any meditative posture, close your eyes and visual Krishna as Supreme lover- a physical manifestation of the 12 Rasas- dearest friend, kind father, and passionate consort. Visualize him as an embodiment of all accepting physical, mental and spiritual love. Meditate upon this visualization.
If you find this visualization difficult, you can focus on a picture or idol of Krishna.

Step 2:
Light a ghee lamp. Place it at eye level. Stare at its flame, no blinking. If tears roll down your cheeks, it’s okay. They are soul cleansers. As you stare at the flame, perform a mental Homa. Offer all your mental afflictions to the flame- anger, rage, jealousy, hatred, ego, greed, desires. One by one disrobe yourself of all the afflictions you have accumulated. Finally, oblate all your karmas to the flame- negative and positive and transcend beyond all the karmas.

Step 3:
Close your eyes and rest in this state of purity, with your eyes closed, visualize the scared fire touching you with cosmic love, transforming you into an irresistible cosmic lover.

Step 4:
Gently open your eyes, come out of meditation, cup your palms, fill them with cold water, blink your eyes in the water.  
    


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Monday, 31 July 2017

Yoga Kit for Surviving Heartbreak


Originally Published in Daily Bhaskar

Heartbreak can happen for many reasons- cheating, lying, moving away- physically or emotionally, break up, divorce, death, unrequited love or if you’re an Indian, perhaps it’s the parents/caste card that could lead to a heartbreak. Irrespective of the cause, heartbreaks leave victims helpless.

Why does one feel so helpless?

Speaking from a yogic point of view, this feeling of helplessness stems from following three aspects:

1. Pain: Modern psychology believes that memory constitutes a significant part of human mind. However, according to yogic philosophy, every cell of the body has memory. Both yogic & psychological viewpoints agree that we create memories through the perceptions that we allocate to the inputs of our sensory organs.

When we fall in love, we love through all the five senses, sight, smell, sound, taste and most importantly touch. Imagine the quality and quantity of memories love creates in our being, that too at cellular level!

Your heart might be broken but the memories are still very much a part of every cell of your system. Moving away from those memories is like ripping a part of every cell of your being. Of course, it’ll hurt.

2. Fear: As a defense mechanism, we try to divert our attention from past. The path that we choose here is towards future. This dwelling into future gives rise to a fear- what if I will never find love again, what if the next is worse, what if I will never be happy, what if I am forever alone. This fear is paralyzing. Our defense screams-‘abort mission future’ and we lapse once again into the memories. It’s a vicious circle.

3. Our mind, our biggest friend, our biggest foe:

We know that we must control our thoughts, move away from pain, and not succumb to fear. We aren’t masochists, at least majority of us are not. We understand this at an intellectual level, and yet we are unable to follow this on experiential level.

This is because; we can’t sit on top of our mind and control it.

Even Arjun, whose focus and concentration was so advanced that he would only see one eye of the bird while shooting, he was known to conquer sleep; and yet, he ended up saying:

“Chanchalam hi manah Krishna
Pramathi balavad drdham
Tasyaham nigraham manye
Vayor ivs su-duskaram”

- Geeta, Chapter 6, Shloka 34

Meaning: But Krishna! Mind is restless and headstrong. Controlling it is harder than controlling wind.
The emotional turmoil of battle of Kurukshetra made even Arjuna realize that the mind is much more powerful that we can ever be.

That’s why Krishna said,

“Bandhur atmatmanas tasya
Yenatmaivatmana jitah
Anatmanas tu shatrutve
Vartetatmaiva shatruvat”

- Geeta, Chapter 6, Sholka 6

Meaning: For those who have conquered the mind, it is their friend. For those who have failed to do so, the mind works like an enemy.

The explanation is simple: “I will control my mind” is a mental consciousness, and so are our memories, the emotions are mental consciousness too.

In this war amidst mental consciousnesses, how does it matter which one wins, when war itself means loss of peace? War is a problem in itself, then how can it solve a problem? So, if controlling mind through mind isn’t the solution, then what is?

What’s the solution?

The solution lies in three simple words- Working with Pranamayakosa.

Trying to manage one’s mind through mind is an oxymoron. It is futile. Therefore, we take refuge in the wisdom of Taititreya Upnishad. According to the Upnishad, a person lives in five dimensions:

1. Annamayakosa- dimension of matter
2. Pranamayakosa- dimension of energy,
3. Manomayakosa- dimension of mind,
4. Vigyanmayakosa- dimension of consciousness,
5. Anandamayakosa- dimension of bliss.

Since, heartbreak is affecting our Manomayakosa and Annamayakosa, we must work on our Pranamayakosa, and channelize that energy in unlocking the inherent healing wisdom of Vigyanmayakosa to reach the blissed out state of Anandmayakosa.

Why Pranamayakosa?

To answer this, we need to understand, Prana.

Prana is life-force- the vital energy. Yet, it is beyond the laws of energy known to modern science. This is evident in the following verse of Yogic philosophy:

““Svayameve tanavam yati,
Svayameva piƱata yati.”

Meaning: Prana is that which can increase or decrease by itself without any external agency.

According to Yajur Veda, Prana manifests in our body in many ways and one of these manifestations is the electrical activity in our brain. Therefore, by controlling the prana we can control our mind.

Sankhya philosophy believes that any adhi (imbalance) of mind or vyadhi (disease) of body can be fixed with working with prana. That’s the reason why Swami Niranjananda calls pranayams the real yoga, and every limb of Ashtanga that comes before that (Yam, Niyam and Asana) is mere preparatory yoga. This is important in the ‘How’ part of healing the heartbreak.

How?

Phase 1: Preparatory Yoga

Step 1: Preparing the body

As discussed above, the memories of love are in every cell of our body. So, for our plan to work, it should not restrict its focus on our mind or heart but incorporate our entire physical system.

Also, as discussed above deleting the memories, is tearing away a bit of every cell of ours, aim here should be transformation of those memories from hurting to healing ones.

This transformation can be achieved by converting the vatta (air) in our body into Prana, through the Pawanmukta-asana Series- I.

In this series, we guide our awareness to the parts of the body where access of Vatta is stored. The Vatta is responsible for movement in our body and access of it leads to mental/emotional turmoils.

Through the 15 sukshma-vyayams (easy exercises) of this series, we can expel the access of Vatta, thus loosening the body, clearing energy and emotional blockages.

Step 2: Bringing our mind to equipoise

Once body is loosened and relaxed by expelling the Vatta. It’s time to do the same with mind. The easiest way to do this is through Vrikshana- the tree pose. This is a balancing asana. It is impossible to relax effortlessly in a balancing posture with a restless mind.

Phase II- The Real Yoga

Step 3: Sensitizing the body with breathe

Once we bring our mind and body to a temporary state of relaxation through asanas, it’s time we take this a deeper and more sustainable level through working on Pranamayakosa.

This can be done through simple Yogic breathing; we are not even required to do complicate Pranayams.  
According to clinical researches, when we breathe in and out in a systematic and coordinated fashion; the electrical coordination of the neurons becomes more systematic. Quantitatively, this can be measured in the effect of one acquiring longer alpha waves and receding beta waves, in the electromagnetic emission of waves in the brain. Unfortunately, the observatory skills of modern science are not developed beyond this point. One needs to inculcate faith or understand the philosophy of the Vedas to venture forward:

As body becomes more sensitive to the flow of breathe, it begins to absorb the pran shakti from the air that we breathe in. The awareness on this pran shakti becomes the bridge of us moving from gross to subtle aspects of our mind

The activities of subtle forces- memories, emotions, knowledge, and archetypes work here and hence can be controlled through this practice.

Step 4: Viyoga

Viyoga is learning how to detach oneself from subjective experience of life.

According to Geeta, Chapter 6, Shloka 23:

“Tam vidyad dukhah-sanyoga-viyogam yogsanjnitam
Sa nishchayena yoktavyo yogo nirvinnachetasa”

Meaning: That state of severance from union with misery is known as Viyoga. This yoga should be resolutely practiced with determination free from pessimism.

In short, practice ‘clean break up’. Just like a no therapy can work on a drug addict if he keeps taking his fix; no amount of healing will work on broken heart if we keep visiting the cause of it. That’s why in Hindu Dharma, when a person dies, all his belongings are offered to fire along with his body.

I am not asking you to set a bon-fire, just for 21 days, happily detach yourself with the stimulus of the memories of the heart-break. Every time a memory or a disturbing emotion arises, joyfully move your focus from that to sensitizing body with the in and out flow of the breath.


Happy Healing!